"Pain"

Recently, I experienced a dramatic motorcycle accident.  Fortunately, with the exception of some rather grisly scratches and burns on my hands and arms, I walked away relatively unscathed.  The pain, however, of the accident has lingered both physically and emotionally.  Because I am unable to escape the discomfort of scabbing burns across my forearms, I have been forced to reflect on the ideology of pain.

I have decided that pain is not always bad.  It is, however, resultant of negative situations.  But, unlike roads to destinations, which are clearly right and wrong (ethical), and good or bad (moral), the objective itself is often more ambiguous.  Hypothesis: Pioneers traveling west will reach the West Coast.  If the covered wagons head east (in the “wrong direction”, ethically speaking), they will not reach the West Coast.  If they approach mountains and try to travel over the range (a “bad” decision, morally speaking), they will not reach the West Coast.  Thus, the means by which they travel hold significant ethical and moral implications.  However, the West Coast is neither good nor bad.  It is merely a destination, potentially blocked or reached depending on the route taken.  And, if the route leads to mountains, or the East Coast, neither destination is inherently wrong or bad, but rather a detour destined to clarify the correct path.  I see these alternative destinations analogous to pain. 

Pain allows us to reflect on mistakes made, on the good and bad road selection, and ultimately inspires us to determine the right path.  Life is so incredibly busy and preposterously convoluted with excessive minutia, we find ourselves annoyed when pain occurs.  The loss of a loved one, the breaking of our heart, the breaking of our arm, or the aching of our head all are perceived as something negative, when in reality, they are simply neutral results of a negative path forcing us to reexamine our own lives, relationships, choices, and desires. 

Advice:  The next time you experience pain, try to not focus on the destination, but the road that got you there.  See both physical and emotional pain as a reminder of our decisions.  If you only look at  the negative elements, you will undoubtedly never take the right road to reach the intended destination. 

"Running"

I remember the first time I took a jog.  I went running on the beach with my dad when I was about 10 years old, and unlike the running I did as a kid, during a water gun fight, or a Nerf war, or playing baseball or football, this was a different kind of experience.  We went running for the sake of running.  The only thing gained from such an activity was the bi-products of a work out: burning of calories and fat, building of endurance, and increasing muscle mass.  Despite the many positive attributes, I recall feeling a certain level of disdain for running because the results were not immediate.  In a game like football, there is a winning side, a memory made, bragging rights, and tangible victory.  Running for the sake of the work out is a relative letdown.  However, the long term results of any kind of working out far surpasses the immediate satisfaction of a game.  The body is being prepared for something greater.  The daily routine yields not only a gradual change of physique, but also a noticeable change in character.  I now run for pleasure and integrity of self, no longer dreading the exhaust, but embracing the eventual benefits.  Maturity is grounded in the responsibility of preparation.  Working out prepares us for the many tasks and challenges we have yet to face.  Being stronger allows us to confidently defend the weak.  Being physically capable allows us to confidently protect those around us.  As men, working out ultimately allows us to be men.  It is the surplus ammo we keep for the moments we hope never happen.

Advice:  The next time you take a jog, imagine yourself pursuing someone who stole your girlfriends purse.  Imagine yourself running away from militant socialists taking over your city, and survival means you have another day to plan your rogue retaliation.  Imagine yourself running into battle, facing your enemies as men have done for centuries before us.